Teenage is nothing but a swirl of changes occurred all of a sudden to a child. It’s normal for teenagers to want to feel independent but acting out in dangerous extremes is not normal. It is never easy to parent a teenager but its seems to be overwhelming when your teen becomes aggressive, despair, abusing drugs and alcohols and engaging in any impulsive and inattentive behavior. You’ll feel exhausted as you can’t sleep in night, you’ll always be worried about your teen where he/she is or what they are doing. You’ll always be in fear because of your teen’s behavior like mood swings, explosive anger etc and you’ll always fail in communicating with them or discussing with them.
Here are some tips who you should follow when you feel that parenting your troubled teen has been become an impossible task for you.
1. Don’t abandon: When teens become out of control they don’t make a pleasant atmosphere and often say rude and nasty words to the parents which sometimes feel very bad and heartbreaking. But never give up and always try to be supportive to your teens and try to make feel them that in any case you’ll be there and love them forever.
2. Contemplate a Wilderness Program: These programs last from 2 to 12 weeks anywhere. In these programs, teens are given responsibilities like making their own meals, camp sites and they learn to work in a team. Parents should go for this but ensure that the program is reputable and appropriate for their teens.
3. Let The Teen Experience Repercussions: Parents always protect their teens even in the cases of destructive and dangerous events. eg. They may not call the police if teen has done something wrong or they pay them for bail of their teens. Sometimes it is necessary to not shield your teens to get them back on track.
4. Elucidate Rights & Detriments: Some out of control teens think that they are engaged to cell phones, cars, video games or any other gadgets and they are their needs. Parents should clarify them that these are only privileges and not rights. Parents should be consistent in their rules and make their teens understand the cause and effects of these things.
5. Consult a Psychologist: They play an important role in getting your teens back on track. By this therapy, teens get the space to work out on their issues with the third party as an objective and it’ll also help you in recognizing the change and destructive behaviors of your teens.
